Gorgeous Wedding Updo for Natural Afro Hair


Recently I’ve started freaking out a little over what to do with my hair on my big day! I decided a while back to free my hair from the constrains of relaxers and extensions and try to (re)learn how to care for my natural hair, to give it a break as much as to try a new style.

So far I’ve been enjoying it as well as learning a lot about what it takes for my hair to be healthy and to grow, however I realised when talking to (black) girlfriends of mine that I needed to seriously consider how I would be styling my hair on my big day and if I would need to think of a long term plan or not. While some friends have suggested I go back to braids (which I wore off and on for the last seven years), others have commented on how charming it would be if I wore a mini ‘fro. I actually envision myself with a sleek by simply updo, although there are so many ways to do that and it obviously depends on the dress too.

With over a year still to go, reason tells me not to start panicking about this just yet, however being an intensive planner, I never feel it’s too early to consider one’s options. I’d been getting frustrated a lot about the lack of images in the media of women with natural afro hair, styled in contemporary ways. It is possible you know! And it is becoming tiring to type “afro hair styles” into google and only get hits for images of clearly relaxed styles, even when one uses “natural” in their search. I therefore became quite inspired by this updo tutorial on Black Girl Long Hair by natural hair vlogger Naptural 85. You can check out more tutorials for other hairstyles by her as well as hair regime advice via her website and of course there are literally hundreds of other hairstyle ideas, tutorials and regimes available on the BGLH website too.

Good luck & don’t forget to share other good hair blogs/websites if you find them too!


Queer African American Women and the History of Marriage


I recently read and wanted to share this piece from The Pop-Up Museum of Queer History regarding African American lesbian weddings that pre-date mainstream campaigns for same-gender marriage rights.

Quite rightly, it is important for all of us to remain mindful and never lose sight of the fact that men and women have been leading alternative lifestyles as well as building alternative families for many years in Europe and North America as well as various groups all over the world upholding kinship traditions unlike those we consider to be “traditional”.

As important as the Marriage Equality movement is, we should also continue to promote a broader and more inclusive understanding of what that might actually mean in terms of family rights and attempt to reduce obscurement of a more global perspective of marriage and kinship.